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So much for straight talk about teen sex

By RAELYNN RICARTE
News staff writer
May 29, 2007 
 

Survey raises disturbing questions, such as why so few parent responses?

Community health experts are concerned that local teens may be confused about the definition of sexual activity.

In a recent survey of 285 juniors at Hood River Valley High School, 41 percent of female respondents and 55 percent of males said they were sexually active. Yet, 63 percent of males said they had engaged in oral sex and 57 percent in vaginal intercourse. The female numbers also rose slightly, with 44 percent involved in oral sex and 43 percent having intercourse.

Also of concern was that only 42 percent of females and 49 percent of males could name five different Sexually Transmitted Infections.

“This is a big, big deal to us because of the potential for sexual diseases,” said Betty Williams, the school nurse coordinator for the Hood River County Health Department.

She and the six other members of a Teen Sexuality Panel convened on Thursday for a community discussion of these issues. Williams said it was possible that teens had been “speaking to the moment” when they marked surveys. So, if they were not currently sexually active, they had responded in the negative.

“I just want to remind teens and parents that once someone becomes sexually active, they need to come in and have a physical,” said Julie Passon, family nurse practitioner with the Providence Hood River Women’s Clinic.

Of equal concern at the May 24 forum was the relationship between drug/alcohol use and sexual behavior. Sixty-eight percent of responding females and 65 percent of males had sexual intercourse while under the influence of alcohol. The number was much lower, at 32 and 35 percent respectively, for sex involving drug use.

Lauren Fein, an AmeriCorps member who moderated the discussion, said that data was consistent with the state’s Healthy Teen Survey. She said the matching statistics underscored her belief that survey respondents had been honest about their life experiences.

She could not explain, however, why only 23 of 285 parents receiving the survey had returned it. Or why 22 of those surveys were answered only by mothers.

Fein said the low return rate made it impossible to get a true read on parental attitudes. She said there appeared to be a discrepancy in communication perceptions between adults and teens. However, the limited number of adult respondents made it difficult to determine if a problem existed.

For example, all 23 parents stated a 100 percent belief that they talked enough with their teens about sexuality. However, students rated that communication at no higher than 60 percent. Conversely, while 69 percent of responding parents wanted more information about the sexuality issues being discussed in school, fewer than half of the students favored them getting more data. And only 12 percent of females and 8 percent of males wanted to meet with their parents to talk about teen sexuality and pregnancy issues.

“We anticipated a smaller number of parents returning the survey,” said Brent Emmons, assistant principal at HRVHS. “Our hope was that having the survey come home would provide a way for parents to talk to their kids.”

Fein, who is working through the Hood River County Commission on Children and Families, has set up another program to spur dialogue.

Her “Talk Sex, Not Tupperware” parties allow the family to customize an in-home visit. Fein serves as facilitator for a lively discussion that is intended to be both fun and educational. She can be reached for more information at 387-7031.

Two teen moms sitting on the panel at the May 24th forum urged parents to keep the lines of communication open with children of all ages.

Caitlynn Huston, 17, is married and the mother of a 15-month-old daughter. She addressed the difficulty of juggling the duties of a wife and mother while still attending high school.

Christina Ayala, 17, agreed that it was tough to study, hold down a job, and raise her 2-year-old daughter.

“It can be overwhelming. Sometimes I don’t sleep, because I have to do work,’ she said. “I’m really young and it’s really hard to keep up with the teen life and trying to do the things I used to do.”

However, both young mothers said love of their children made the sacrifices worthwhile.

“After they are here there’s no regretting. There’s no looking back at all,” said Ayala.

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Talking Points

Parents can follow these tips from Advocates for Youth to open up dialogue with their child about sexuality issues:

n Encourage communication by reassuring kids that they can talk to you about anything.

n Take advantage of teachable moments. A friend’s pregnancy, news article, or a TV show can help start a conversation.

n Listen more than you talk. Think about what you’re being asked. Confirm with your child that what you heard is in fact what he or she meant to ask.

n Don’t jump to conclusions. The fact that a teen asks about sex does not mean they are having or thinking about having sex.

n Answer questions simply and directly. Give factual, honest, short and simple answers.

n Respect your child’s views. Share your thoughts and values and help your child express theirs.

n Reassure young people that they are normal – as are their questions and thoughts.

n Teach your children ways to make good decisions about sex and coach them on how to get out of risky situations.

n Admit when you don’t know the answer to a question. Suggest the two of you find the answer together on the Internet or in the library.

n Discuss that at times your teen may feel more comfortable talking with someone other than you. Together, think of other trusted adults with whom they can talk.